About Me

I'm a clinical psychologist, couples therapist, and assistant professor at Brown University, and I've spent two decades watching smart, well-meaning people talk past each other in the most important relationships of their lives (Don’t bother doing the age math–I started very young).

It turns out the problem isn't them. It's how understanding actually works.

I've made it my mission to drag the science on this out of academic journals and into real conversations, real relationships, and real lives with a little humor (because relationships are hard enough without them being boring too).

My writing has appeared in outlets including The Washington Post, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Greater Good Science Center, Tricycle, Behavioral Scientist, Kveller, The Wise Brain Bulletin, Psychology Today, and Motherly.

My book about how to thrive in working parenthood, Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection (When Everything Feels Like too Much), is available wherever books are sold. My forthcoming book, Why Don’t You Understand Me?: The Surprising Science Behind Connection in a World of Missed Signals, will be available on October 27, 2026.

I live outside of Boston with my husband, three small comedians, and a cat who rules us all.